Ever find a spot where you could pinpoint where something went wrong and broke-shit on such a massive scale that the damage is still being undone? See Freud on incest… “THERAPISTS AND EVALUATORS We need to take a large step back in time for a moment, to the early
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Dead Wild Roses: Lundy Bancroft – On Abusive Men
“An abuser doesn’t change because he feels guilty or gets sober or finds God. He doesn’t change after seeing the fear in his children’s eyes or feeling them drift away from him. It doesn’t suddenly dawn on him that his partner deserves better treatment. Because of his self-focus, combined with
Continue readingDead Wild Roses: On Abusive Men and Therapy – Lundy Bancroft
“The more psychotherapy an abusive man has participated in, the more impossible I usually find it is to work with him. The highly “therapized” abuser tends to be slick, condescending, and manipulative. He uses the psychological concepts he has learned to dissect his partner’s flaws and dismiss her perceptions of abuse. He takes responsibility […]
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